I lost my children from the beginning
Trang HaAs a writer, a woman who struggles for feminism, copywriter, business media consultant ... and also the mother of three children, especially children in the stage of mature landmarks..So do you encounter problems like many other mothers about stubborn "children"?
I myself also encountered all the troubles like any other mother: I lied, lazy to study, steal money in your wallet, stubborn, I have malicious social relationships, I have obstacles inDevelopment, I have no goal of living, I am threatened and misunderstood, I follow the superficial things, the habit of living indiscriminately in science, I have too little close friends while too many Facebook friends, children are trickedIsland, harassment, etc. ... The time for children to puberty is the most terrible period because the children want to create their own values and reject the influence of their parents!
There are many times, a like button of friends, a vague complaint on the internet more than one day living in the family, a parents' orientation conversation.
So how did I be a mother?I always thought that I was a failure to teach my children in my mind, so I had to learn and search for information constantly.I lost to my children from the beginning and only tried to support it so it didn't fail as I used to.
I am not a full -time mother, I am not allowed to decide it, I don't think "Mom is always right!", I don't teach my children, because I'm still learning to be a mother!
I often don't jump into the life of my children.I accept that my child will have to cry because of the lovelorn, cheated, and being defamed by his friends, boycotted, and he will struggle with personal emotions ...
I can't spread money on my road, I can't spread roses or red carpets at my feet, and I can't lie out for you to step up smoothly!I accept my children to suffer pain to grow up.
While many parents do not accept this, even parents fight, parents slap in another child because "it slapped their children!".Or they will punch the teacher when the child is retained for a few minutes!A billion bribes for their children to get the test scores, actually the money parents destroy the opportunity of "certain children" in society!
Timeline of a family is always: Great parents cover their small children, then parents will be inferior (even parents become sick, inferior, useless) and children will grow up and grow more mature, they have done things that have never been done in the past.
I always identify my parents can not be an example for my children, I can teach my children how to eat, how to go, sit and talk but cannot determine the attitude and behavior of children with this life and with right away.Both yourself.My attitude, my life, completely mine!
I draw a map of life for my children to see, but I don't take my hand or carry my child to the end of my life!Because it decides itself, what is the point it comes, happiness or unfinished.My child decided to horizon itself!
The mission of parents is to do the best things in "The present", and "tomorrow - The Future", let me count!
"Present" when children are in 6th grade, I create a connection to observe my children, that is the contact between parents, teachers, schools, friends, parents, friends, family, mentor ofchildren in society.
"Present" when I was in 10th grade, I took my child to Parkson to buy the entire Korean cosmetics that were loved by young people.Ready to give children a makeup, bodybuilding or aerobic, yoga.And explain to you why you want you to be decent, do not want you to hide your makeup, know what the 15 -year -old daughter will want to see in the mirror and on the picture, hope you are comfortable and safe!
"Present" when I went to college, when I saw off my child into the school gate, I turned, cycling around Taiwan, every day the target was about 250k Vietnamese money for eating and sleeping accommodation along the way.I want to show my child, in all difficult circumstances, with the most limited conditions, a woman can always live a brilliant and free life!
Although I did not know, whether a girl could find anything interesting or coughed from a mother like me or not!I may not be a good mother but always try to give my children the most choices.
It is known that after recently, after consulting the communication strategy for many businesses, she "encroached" to Mentor (mentor), and received more individuals, including the family of business owners.karma.It seems that they also have very human problems ...
Yes, recently working with businesses, business owners also have their own problems, so the predestined relationship brought themselves to work as a mentor.In addition to behavior in the family, many people ask me to advise on behavior with children.
There are parents who say I care about my children, everything I do with my children.But eating together, doing together, sleeping together, taking care of the phone and asking me is still not common.Good parents must also know how to do communication with their children.
There are quite prestigious families who hire themselves 3 sessions a week within 3 months to help their children not to do business, do not start a business, do not go backpacking nor go to practice (because they say,Trang HaAs the idol of their son!) That family's parents are too successful, they want their children to go to their father's research institute or go to their university, or go abroad to study.I love the "25 -year -old child" that had to fight with the whole family, over the past 15 years he has always had to escape the arrangement of the intellectual family with status.
There are husband and wife in Khanh Hoa who wants to invite Trang Ha to come back to rectify the daughter of puberty very upside down, insolent, never know to thank, do not take care of her, do not listen to their parents ... but when I am IFlying to Cam Ranh and returning to his family, in contact with a few days, he was really a great child, he had his own personality and ego.It has independent literature, and if it is fierce, because of his childhood, he was a bit of a personal attack by his family!
There are things his father thinks that his son has a problem because he does not follow the standard of the public as he wants, the child smashes the door too strong, the child speaks too little, obeys his friends than his parents ...Suggestions for her to go in the direction of independence, after graduation, register to join a doctor without borders, open the door with society by walking around!And use discontent energy to create positive and progressive behaviors!
Surely that father now hates and disappointed because Trang Ha is very down!For a year, I have not seen me call me anymore!
Parents, accept yourself more and more useless!
Saying so, there must be countless parents who have loved their children?
In this world, there will be many mothers who are always right, I also meet many mothers who pretend to be right, but that is not Trang Ha.I did not hide my 12th grade, I got 3.5 points with the teacher's comment: "Slowly absorb".
I told you like this:“Mom learned ignorance because of lack of time to study, and lack of methods of learning, lack of people who should manage time.However, the score does not say everything.Dad 10 English points but later used nothing to English, the mother learned the most foreign language in the class but later became translators. ”
I also did not hide my child at the age of 15, I also tried to smoke tobacco pipe tobacco, did not hide the failed experiences before my child so that it had the right to wrong and also helped me keep my eyes understand.
When his daughter teenage, it occasionally wrote a letter to her mother to confide in everything.But I did not write anything, still talked dryly with my children.I admit that I was the one who did not know how to express my feelings, so I always went straight to the focus.
The daughter in the 11th grade she gave her a gift box, the uma porcelain I liked, it said that on the annual birthday, she would give gifts to her mother because she knew this day 16 years ago, she was painful to give birth to it like that.any.She was very happy but did not show happiness and finally only said thank you to me.
I met 2 types of parents in different situations.At the end of the last day, a group of parents booked a separate page to advise the children as a yearbook, a memorable farewell party for life.That is their expertise and the children have had practical advice.
But there are also groups of parents who fail to collect each other so that each person contributes 5 million to hire a professional worker as a yearbook.Parents spread money out since their children are not required.
I myself may not be a good mother, I do not teach other one other mother to teach, but I can do other things she does not do.And it seems that everything I usually go to the detour and try to give your child the most options possible.Please do what you want, what gives you the most experiences, I can try and wrong but then I will know what your dream and passion is.
Claiming to be a failed mother, but it seems to be a way for Trang to back down for her children to have a space to breathe and grow.If there is a story that you like about the journey to accompany your children, what is that?
Perhaps it is a lesson on motorbike saddle, in the full-face hat of the U50 woman about gender appeal.I think it is something accidentally taught my children a lesson about social nature.In the shuttle of children to school, I ran a sports motor and there were many men who followed to talk, praise, praise, followed many roads ...
When walking through the south gate, a brother looked extremely artist's appearance tried to chase:"Honey, I click me 20 likes because you take this car, let me take a picture with you a picture".Sometimes another is a pig driving, carrying 2 barrels of rice water to run to admire:“My car is so beautiful.Who is your car or whom?Is the car expensive? ”
Sometimes a man stopped with other red lights and real interesting stories.When he was a doctor at the hospital near the school, he always ran out to welcome the way to greet or the boy went to the handsome Café Racer to dress extremely stylishly but kept following his Motocross ...
My daughter often laughs when watching those people.My children understand that not men are often easily appealing by car, but because the woman shines when they are really free in the image they choose!The charisma is something that women who do not experience life never have!While you live with your choice, the whole world sees your aura.
I also do not know my child will become a woman's masked ninja woman, or become a woman who tattooed herself by a fullface cap.That I could not guess, but no matter how my child's choice, I always respect and love.
I am not rich, not good for many things, but I always give my children a lot of choices and I also accept with my child's choice, even if I instructed.The biggest thing in accompanying your child is probably to accept to leave the right to be a mother to decide the life of children.
I will be very happy if I idolize my mother, but if there is a stubborn child spoiled ... then thank you.Because it has helped you become an adult mother.
Thank you for the conversation!